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So many clients I work with are concerned with the way they look. When these concerns turn into self-loathing, unhealthy lifestyle habits set in and interfere with their ability to live life with abundance.

Singer and songwriter Colbie Caillat expresses this extremely well in her recent video available on You Tube. Take a look:

It should not be such a challenge to like what we see when we look at ourselves. Bottom line is that Photoshop and media outlets around the world continuously present us with a notion of beauty that really does not exist. We don’t have to live up to impossible standards!

Health and Wellness coaching is only one tool to help a person set their own standards for beauty, health and wellbeing. Pass this on if you know someone who has difficulty practicing self-love!

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I am back. I wish I could tell you that I went somewhere fabulous, far, far away from any internet connection in the weeks and months I have not written. I have been busy living life to the fullest – though, I have to admit, on some days the fullness of life can be painful and vexing…

Four months ago, I accompanied my best friend Carol, as she grieved the loss of her youngest sister, Mary, to suicide. Such a sudden and tragic death in the family is destabilizing for any human, but for Carol, living into her 22nd month after being diagnosed with an aggressive stage IV breast cancer, this news was devastating. If you ever doubted the mind-body connection, I am here to tell you that one’s emotional state contributes enormously to one’s physical health.

Just days after Mary died Carol found that she was unable to do much more than sleep. For about 2 weeks she did not venture far from her bedroom. The cancer which had spread to her lungs, adrenal glands, bones, brain and liver left her in unbearable pain. That pain, added to her broken heart landed her in Memorial Sloan Kettering Hospital in New York for a three-week stay in mid-May. I traveled to New York, leaving much of my work behind to be with Carol in the hospital – checking in with Carol’s other friends and family members to ensure that she was well accompanied on a full-time basis.

On June 8th Carol was released from the hospital and sent home to her sister Susie’s 24-hour care. Susie and I were making plans so I could spell her over the weekend, when she called me Friday morning, June 9, to completely change the plan. Carol could no longer walk, and Susie needed more help immediately. I rushed to New York again and in the span of 5 days Carol’s health continued to disintegrate before she took her last breath on June 16.

The days at Carol’s home were intense. There was the steady stream of visitors to coordinate, and the pain medications and just getting her up to go to the bathroom took 3 people 20 minutes to do. It’s all a blur now – did I eat? Drink? Sleep? It’s just too hard to remember now. What I do know is that I felt the greatest sense void on June 16 after she died. The care-giving that had organized all my previous days was over. I headed back to DC the next day – grieving and empty. I went to work on Monday – trying to focus on answering the email that had accumulated in my absence at my advocacy job and found myself unfocused, sad, and exhausted.

Mourning the death of a loved one rakes you over the coals. I know that the grieving process is different for everyone – and I find that each time I grieve the loss of someone I love, it is different, depending on the relationship and my sense of self at the time.

The body may die, but the relationship continues! I now find myself thinking of Carol constantly. When I see something funny or something beautiful that I know she would enjoy, I think of the way she really loved life and fought so hard to live. Although I miss her wisdom, humor and compassion, I often remember what she would say or do when new situations come up for me.

Going through this experience has really taught me to seize the day. Carol was robbed — she wanted so much to spend more time on this earth — loving the people who surrounded her. Losing Carol has taught me that life truly is short, and I want to live every minute of it as the most healthy, integrated, balanced person I could be. I now recommit myself to doing this — not only for my sake, but for Carol’s.

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